Monday, July 21, 2014

#12. Fathers Last Freedom

The last 24 hours have flown by and we continue to get closer to bringing Clare and Luke home from the hospital.  In the meantime, outside of our hospital visits, we have been trying to get out and enjoy Bangkok and our (soon to evaporate) free time.

Sunday Night

Last night we had dinner with another surrogacy couple who both live in Bangkok.  I 'met' one of the guys on a Thai Surrogacy forum several months ago.  We corresponded often throughout our pregnancies, sharing ultrasound updates.  He actually gave me a lot of comfort the past few months by sharing first hand information about the IVF Clinic and his surrogate's check ups.  He was kind of my surrogate for our surrogate!  It was great to meet up with these two guys and share our journeys to having children.  Their surrogate was scheduled to give birth on July 31, but SURPRISE!!  She went into labor this morning and they are now parents a little sooner. Congratulations, guys!!  Clare and Luke have some new friends in the nursery tonight.

On our way home, Chris and I had a drink at a place called the 'Moon Bar' on the 63rd floor of a hotel. This is one of the things I wanted to do that I previously hadn't in Bangkok (if you saw Hangover II, you saw a Bangkok 'sky bar'). The bar was neat with an amazing view of the city and all of its high rises.  The menus were lit up
This feature probably cost us 100 baht alone
and the views were spectacular.
Chris beaming at the Moon Bar
Monday

After our hospital visit today we had a couple of hours to kill before a meeting at the IVF Clinic.  So, we took to the Sky Train.
Yep, we're in Thailand

View from Sky Train stop...how many 7/11's can you spot?
We decided to fill that time with a trip to MBK...an enormous shopping mall with 6 or 7 floors.
MBK
I call it 'mall on crack'.  Think of a normal mall with 3 times as many shops per story fit into the same amount of space.  MBK has everything...clothes, electronics, souvenir stalls, jewelry shops, just about any type of store you can think of.  We had lunch at the famous 6th floor food court where you have to pre-pay and then buy things from the various food areas.
Plenty of options
We didn't end up doing much actual shopping (outside of buying 6 dvd videos...we are going to be staying in a lot over the next few weeks!), but we found my favorite store in the mall (I stumbled upon this shop 10 years ago when I visited...it's actually a pharmacy).
We couldn't find a July 19 store, but we found the store for my birthday!
We have been picking things up along the way for the nursery back in Chicago.  By things, I mean elephants...they are everywhere here in Thailand.  The kids will have quite a stash by the time we come home.  This will represent their 'wicker' version (we are getting a little crazy about the elephant thing) of the elephant.
What if they don't like elephants?
Luckily, we made it home in a taxi before rush hour started.  This is one thing we are learning...no taxis between 4 and 8 PM.
Nobody's going anywhere...as seen from our balcony
After being flanked by about a dozen or so people inviting us to naughty, naughty places (I won't even begin to share the names of these places and what we have heard happens at these places), we had dinner at a Japanese steak place,
I want meat and I want it now
Ok, here you go!
which might end up being a meal we title, 'The Last Supper'.
Hence, the 'tall' Singha
We headed home to work (Chris)/blog (me)
Chris, practicing his walk over the bridge with baby in tow
maybe for our last night of a full night's sleep for awhile!

Tuesday

Today we decided to head out early to take in a few more sights before heading to the hospital to 'determine our fate'.  We started by taking the river taxi up to Wat Pho, the temple that has an enormous reclining Buddha.
Welcome mat

After entering the temple complex,
Chris at Wat Pho entrance
we saw a photo showing we weren't the first American celebrities to visit this place.
Buddha likes us better
The grounds of Wat Pho are pretty amazing.  There are chedi's (or stuppa's) of all sizes everywhere.
Stupefying Stuppas
There are also crazy amounts of Buddhas.  There are non-stop rows of Buddhas,
Biggest Buddha collection in Thailand
fantastic Buddha scenes in sanctuaries for people to worship,
Take your shoes off and stay awhile

and Buddhas handing out high fives.
Giving a good 'ole Matt Ross (no touch) high five
But, everyone comes to Wat Pho for the Reclining Buddha.  At 150 feet long and 50 feet tall, it's pretty impressive.
Big headed Buddha

From head to toe
The feet of this Buddha are mother of pearl inlay with various images.  Really cool.
There are 108 of these on the Reclining Buddha's feet
After leaving the temple, we took our first tuk-tuk in Thailand (we have been using cabs...a cab has a meter where as you have to bargain with a tuk-tuk driver...we are growing tired of bargaining).  It was a fun little ride but felt a little bit like we were on a 'Sizzler'.

We walked through an older area of Bangkok called Banglamphu, and down the famed Thanon Kao San road.
Thanon Kao San
It was a little too touristy (meaning we were being hawked by tuk-tuk drivers every 10 feet, asked if we wanted custom suits made, and had every tour guide ready to take us to places we had just been) for us. We didn't stay long, but long enough to buy some tank tops. Bangkok is so unbelievably sweltering hot (and humid) at times that we finally broke down and bought some sleeveless shirts.  It didn't take long for Chris to change into one of his during today's touring.
He found this one with elephants...its a beer shirt
We made our way to the Golden Mount, a hill with a temple at the top that has panoramic views of Bangkok.
Lookin up at the golden mount
The views were good, but the best part was probably the breeze at the top!  We did realize
we are beginning to figure out the layout of Bangkok.

We live in this direction...somewhere
After climbing back down, we headed back to our home area to have lunch
Open-air dining near home

and then check in on the babies. Would they finally be ours to take home?? 

#11. Look Who's Awake Now?

This morning, we headed over to the hospital around 11:00 for Visit #3...'The Bathing'.  We stopped in to pick up some flowers for our surrogate as we wanted to check in on her today.  When we arrived, Clare was already cleaned up, but the nurse showed us some pointers on how to give Luke a bath (can we bring her back to Chicago to help us out?).  Suddenly, he reverted to his first minute of life mode, turned red, and was none too happy.

He settled down after he was swaddled and never shed a tear thereafter.  Once the bath was done we headed into a 'feeding room'.  After the nurse helped us get started and comfortable,
The nurses at BNH are great...this one is our favorite
we were left to be alone in the room for almost an entire hour.  I fed Luke and Chris fed Clare.  Yesterday, Clare was our 'zombie child' and had trouble staying awake for the bottle.  Today, that title went to Master Luke (Chris likes to think it is his golden touch since he is 2 for 2 on feeding the kids so far)!  He flashed his big blue eyes for a few minutes, but soon fell asleep with bottle in mouth.

Going,
Going,





                                                         
                                                                       Gone!
Even when he's asleep, he's still fun to hold.
Me and 'Buddy'...his first of many nicknames
Today was Clare's day to show off.  She slugged down her bottle,
Clare going to town
but ultimately paid the price with the hiccups.  

                                      


Clare kept her eyes open for the rest of our visit.  It was nice to interact with her and see her looking around with her own pair of blue eyes.
Thanks for letting us see those pretty eyes today!
We tried for the day's sibling shot.  This time it was Luke who couldn't stay awake.  One of these times we will get them with both eyes open.
They switched things up on us!
We are loving these kids more and more each minute we have with them.
Proud Papa
Seeing Double
After leaving the babies, we met up with the hospital pediatrician.  She brought us into her office and it immediately felt like parent-teacher conferences (I've only been on the other side!).  We were very anxious to hear about Clare and Luke's progress and were thrilled to find out they are doing very well.  The doctor shared a thorough report with various recorded statistics.  Their weight drops have been normal and their blood sugars are fine.  She said that tomorrow (Tuesday) she will test the blood sugars again in the morning and if they are at a certain level, the twins can come home with us!  Wow, now it's really getting real.  If the numbers aren't quite where they should be, they will come home Wednesday.  The doctor was great with her explanations, and we had no further questions (well, Chris became curious about where we have to pay!).

Before we left the hospital, we took some flowers to our surrogate's room.  One of the nurses tagged along to help with the communication.  Our surrogate was sleeping and we felt bad for waking her up, but she allowed us to enter the room.  Her mother was with her in the room as well.  While we didn't know what to expect in visiting, it was important for us to convey our genuine thanks for what she has done.  We will never know completely the circumstances for why she chose to become a surrogate, but we will always think of her and be thankful for carrying Clare and Luke.  We are happy to report that she is doing great with no complications whatsoever.  We will see her again in a couple of weeks when we go through the process of 'gaining custody' for Clare and Luke and all of the necessary steps to come back home.

Tomorrow could be a very big day!